It’s that time of year for resolutions
It’s the time of year for resolutions when we make these pronouncements:
- To lose weight
- Start exercising
- Take up a class
- Finish a book
I don’t make New Year’s resolutions anymore.
Yes, I like to have a date when I will begin a new book, or have a book ready for publishing, but when it comes to these shouldas, couldas, wouldas, about my person, I feel as though I need to make a decision and begin, whether it’s the beginning, middle or end of the year.
It’s because I know what I need to do. I just have to get off my butt and do it, whatever it is, whenever it is.
What I know
See, I know I need to lose a few pounds. I need to eat smaller portions and eat less sugar. I didn’t wait for the end of the year to make my New Year’s resolution to begin. I just said, “This is what I need to be healthy.”
And I know it’s not a diet. This is the way of life. I just have to do it.
For my career I knew I needed to manage the advertising and marketing and writing. I quit my job because at the moment I was able to. Because this is what I had to do if I want to be an author.
We like the idea of new beginnings. The ability to shed the bad stuff from the previous year. I have a lot of baggage I could do that with. What I need to do instead, is remember to live in the moment. Not my resolution, but my real life, all the time.
It’s not a resolution, it’s simply me remembering that today is a new day and I need to live today with all that entails. No more resolutions, no more attempts. Just one day at a time. If I slip today, I pick up and do it again the next without judging myself or being hard on myself when one day goes badly. I tomorrow, not January 1. There’s always tomorrow.
If you must have resolutions
If you must make a resolution, do this: Each and everyday I will:
- Honor myself and my dreams
- Live in the moment
- Be passionate about something
- Stop judging myself
- Have a bad day and move on
- Forgive myself for infractions that mean nothing
We mess up. We take corrective actions we move on. I will remember to live in the moment, not starting on January 1, but starting today.
Have yourself a very happy holiday season and be your best self, even if that means you lay around in your jammies watching Doctor Who episodes once and while.